you casually admit that you sexually assaulted your partner like it never happened. youre a hypocrite. you should post your picture and shame yourself the way you shame others who are just ACCUSED of doing the same thing. you dont even take responsiblity for your behavior but instead blame your partner’s racism for “leading you to drink, which lead you to assault her”. scum. - submitted on anon
I’ve never thought that my ex’s racism was responsible for my drinking. I chose to drink instead of leaving. That was my choice.
I’ve processed a lot about what the appropriate measures would be to ensure others can keep themselves safe. I’ve been unsure about explaining the details because this isn’t only my story to tell, and the response I’ve gotten in person has been pretty dismissive. My abusiveness is the scariest, most challenging thing I’ve had to recover from, as a survivor of rape and abuse. It’s changed the way I feel about myself, as it should.
I’ve sexually assaulted women on two separate occasions when I was fucked up(one time was on ketamin and alcohol, one time black out drunk). The first time I was 20, and we were making out on the kitchen floor of a party. She told me to stop but I kept kissing her. She pushed me away and I immediately realized what I’d done.
The second time was in my most recent relationship. I was passed out, and I woke up wanting to have sex. She told me she said no, but that I kept pushing and that she eventually consented. She has complicated feelings about that night, and has been comfortable with us using the word coercion, though she insists the sex was consensual. She informed me of this incident after we broke up over her racism.
Here is my picture.
Everyone has a right to keep themselves safe.
Reblogging to update the picture.