anedumacation:

Kanye West getting deep on twitter

Kanye West is the Kanye Best.

He’s actually one of those creepy guys who brags about having sex with and “turning” lesbians, but this is a step in the right direction.

you-do-not-do:

hoelita:

people seriously think that you can just leave an abusive relationship, like walk out and it’s over

let’s talk about how one-third of women murdered every year are by an intimate partner. let’s talk about how a woman leaving her batterer is seventy-five percent more likely to be killed. 

digestivepyrotechnics:

My name escapes their minds: notyourkinddear: timcl: faineemae: Dear Nicki Minaj,Next time you…

mynameisjuthika:

notyourkinddear:

timcl:

faineemae:

Dear Nicki Minaj,

Next time you dress yourself in animal print clothing and dance around in a cage while being a colored woman, you should realize that you the result of years and years of male-dominated media stereotyping colored women as exotic, hypersexual, promiscuous, animal-like things. Not even human, just things, objects. Hope you’re proud of yourself and how you make colored women look. So, next time…just don’t.

Sincerely,
a disappointed young woman.

While I’m not a young woman…

How about “no”.

First off, the very fact that the word “colored” is used rather than “woman of color” is WAY wrong. Like, a million times wrong. “Colored” is NOT an acceptable term. It is a racist term. Full stop.

Second, when non-Black women decide to chide Black women about how Black women are hypersexualized, objectified, etc., that is absolutely anti-Black and overstepping basic decency.

Third, I am tired of this ridiculous notion that Black women need to present themselves a certain way because they represent everyone and how they “make us look”. Nicki represents Nicki. If you don’t like her stuff, hey, that’s cool. You don’t have to. But she isn’t representing you, she isn’t the one oppressing you, and it’s pathetic to blame her for patriarchy. You have issues with how male dominated media deals with women, and women of color in particular? Take it up with men.

Fourth, do you think we can’t read the slut-shaming coded into this? We need to get past this idea that we have to tear down other women to build ourselves up. If you believe in modesty, do your modest thing. If you believe in an open sexuality, do your thing. Neither one of those needs to talk down to the other. Just do you and stop policing everyone else. If a woman has real self-respect, she won’t feel the need to tear down the ways other women express their own self-respect.

Fifth, you clearly don’t even understand Nicki’s work or how she is taking those expectations and playing on them. And that’s okay. You don’t have to agree with her. But don’t assume that you understand her intentions or methods or purpose.

Sixth, sorry, all the love, but men agreeing with this need to sit down. When men get in on this, you aren’t supporting women/women of color. You are contributing to hurting a woman of color. You don’t need to inject yourself into this.

^ EXACTLY FUCKING THIS. Why is Nicki Minaj being torn down for reclaiming herself and her body? You call yourself feminists and you pull this shit? 

Yep. Frankly, the OP can shut the fuck up with their slut-shaming of Nicki Minaj. Her two cents on the sexuality of a black woman, whilst not being black herself, is unwanted (by me).

Also, “colored”? I should’ve stopped reading the second I read that.

LOL @ non-black women lecturing black women on what it is to be hypersexualized by the media, and blaming her on top of that. “LOOK HOW YOU’RE MAKING ALL OF US LOOK.” Ha! No.

catandkitty:

durnesque-esque:

thehippiejew:

extrafeisty:

jaycubs:

A Glasgow nightclub has installed a two-way mirror which allows male revellers in private booths to spy on unsuspecting women as they visit the toilet! With no notification or signage anywhere in the venue many female club goers have been left feeling embarrassed and used. Although they do briefly show the mirrors in a promo video, the club has been quickly deleting comments and posts on their social media from club goers trying to alert others to the situation. This is pretty much illegal and hugley violates privacy. Thank you The Shimmy Club for giving us a shiny, new, creative and cool take on objectification.
article here

i’m never leaving my house again, this world is just too fucked up.

WHAT!?

gross gross gross gross gross

Good morning disgusting.

Remember ladies:

• “No space, leave the place” (fingernail test)
• A two way mirror must be set INTO the wall, not placed on top of it.
• If you rap/knock against the mirror, one installed onto a wall (a normal mirror) will make a dull sound, because there’s something behind it. A two-way will have more reverberation.
• Use the flashlight on your phone to shine on the mirror, if it’s a two-way, you’ll be able to see into the other room.
• You can also shield your eyes and see in if you lean up against the glass.
• The room being viewed will have to be brightly lit (10x brighter than the room looking in), so if you’re in a typical dimly lit club bathroom, you’re ok.

Remember ladies, don’t expect to leave your house an be treated like an autonomous person who doesn’t have to search every bathroom, powder room, and elevator like you’re in a fucking neo noir spy film! So pass on these safety tips that reaffirm that deep knot of dread in your stomach telling you your humanity is up for debate!

thebestworstidea:

softgore:

“This piece was primarily a trust exercise, in which she told viewers she would not move for six hours no matter what they did to her.  She placed 72 objects one could use in pleasing or destructive ways, ranging from flowers and a feather boa to a knife and a loaded pistol, on a table near her and invited the viewers to use them on her however they wanted. 

Initially, Abramović said, viewers were peaceful and timid, but it escalated to violence quickly.  “The experience I learned was that … if you leave decision to the public, you can be killed… I felt really violated: they cut my clothes, stuck rose thorns in my stomach, one person aimed the gun at my head, and another took it away. It created an aggressive atmosphere. After exactly 6 hours, as planned, I stood up and started walking toward the public. Everyone ran away, escaping an actual confrontation.”

This piece revealed something terrible about humanity, similar to what Philip Zimbardo’s Stanford Prison Experiment or Stanley Milgram’s Obedience Experiment, both of which also proved how readily people will harm one another under unusual circumstances.”

This performance showed just how easy it is to dehumanize a person who doesn’t fight back, and is particularly powerful because it defies what we think we know about ourselves. I’m certain the no one reading this believes the people around him/her capable of doing such things to another human being, but this performance proves otherwise.”

this is why performance art is important

So every single person who told me ‘ignore them they’ll go away’ and ‘you can’t let them know they bothered you’ and ‘They’ll stop if they don’t see you react’ and all that bull shit, my entire school career, I want you to look good and hard at this.

I want you to think about what you said.

What you keep saying.

What you are telling your children.

You are making them powerless.

maymay:

“Repeat Rape: How do they get away with it?”, Part 2 of 2. (link to Part 1)

Sources:

1. College Men: Repeat Rape and Multiple Offending Among Undetected Rapists,Lisak and Miller, 2002 [PDF, 12 pages]
2. Navy Men: Lisak and Miller’s results were essentially duplicated in an even larger study (2,925 men): Reports of Rape Reperpetration by Newly Enlisted Male Navy Personnel, McWhorter, 2009 [PDF, 16 pages]

By dark-side-of-the-room, who writes:

These infogifs are provided RIGHTS-FREE for noncommercial purposes. Repost them anywhere. In fact, repost them EVERYWHERE. No need to credit. Link to the L&M study if possible.

Knowledge is a seed; sow it.

I guess I hit a nerve with silly white boys yesterday.

“%100 of rapes committed against black women are perpetuated by black men, how do you feel about that?” is the most ignorant thing I’ve heard in awhile, so congrats on that.

Just heard a radio commercial say the fight against childhood obesity is the most important fight in this nation’s history. My black trans queer ass begs to differ.

My fat wasn’t the reason my headstart teacher picked me up by wrapping her hands around my neck when I was 5; it wasn’t the reason a dentist thought he could hold me down in front of others and pinch my cheek until it bled when I was 9; it wasn’t the justification for trying to hold me back and for placing me in special education classes from Kindergarten until someone finally tested me and placed me in advanced classes in 6th grade, and it sure as hell isn’t the reason cops and nurses pinned me down with their knees on my back and neck while shouting, “this is what you wanted, isn’t it?” after my first suicide attempt at 13.

Y’all know why this shit happened, and my gut had nothing to do with it.

Tehmina Durrani | The Woman Behind The Revolution [x]

Tehmina Durrani is a Pakistani author and activist. For 13 years, she was married to Ghulam Mustafa Khar, the former Governor of Punjab and one of the most powerful men in the country during the 70s and 80s. She chronicled her marriage in the 1991 book, My Feudal Lord, where she describes the abuse, torture, rape and humiliation she suffered at the hands of Khar. 

She faced criticism not only for speaking out against Khar, but also for staying in the marriage for 13 years and having children with him. Reviews of the book to this day disparage her for not leaving sooner or seeking help or doing more to protect her children, despite Khar commanding tremendous power and influence. On page 156, she writes: “What could the police do? They would admonish Mustafa, but sooner or later I would be alone with him, in a worse predicament than before. My silence was not to protect Mustafa; it was to protect myself.”

In 1997, Ghulam Mustafa Khar’s son, Bilal, married a woman named Fakhra Yunus. She too suffered physical abuse at the hands of her husband and escaped after three years to return to her mother’s home. However, in April 2000, Bilal Khar tracked her down and threw acid in her face while she slept. After being released from the hospital, she returned to Bilal and reached out to Tehmina Durrani for help. Tehmina intervened and took Fakhra into her own house despite facing death threats from the Khar family.

Tehmina Durrani is now the author of several books and an activist for Pakistani women and rights of the poor. Her efforts to help Fakhra were detailed in a 2001 Time Magazine article entitled “The Evil That Men Do” which also contained this iconic graphic photograph of the two of them. Fakhra Yunus committed suicide on March 17, 2012 at the age of 33. Bilal Khar was acquitted of all charges.